Monday, January 18, 2016

For Better Relationships, Know Your Deal Breakers

What’s your relationship deal breaker? Bad manners? Selfishness? Someone who refers to herself using the “royal we”?

Most folks will admit to having a list of specific negative qualities that make them reconsider a relationship with a potential mate. But now new research shows that people give more weight to these deal breakers than they do to the deal makers, or positive qualities, they hope to find in a person.

Think of it as the relationship version of the economic loss-aversion theory, which holds that people prioritize avoiding risk over acquiring gains. In mating, people pay more attention to what’s wrong with a would-be partner than what is right.

In a series of six studies published together online in October in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, researchers... discovered that women have more deal breakers than men.

More from the Wall Street Journal.

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